Thursday, November 28, 2013


I don't really recall Thanksgivings of my childhood. We always sat down for meals as a family and on Sunday extended family came and we had wonderful food beyond our normal weekday meals. So maybe that is why the holidays blur in memory. Because there wasn't just a few special meals a year, there were many.

I have wonderful food memories. I come from a family of cooks. Not chefs, just good down to earth cooks. Everyone could make the basics and some of us have our specialties that get passed on to younger generations. My aunt Catherine and her fried apple pies, my mama's carrot cake, my brother's cheesy taters to name a few. Everyone, male and female in my family cooks. My nephew hosts the family dinners now and he smokes pork and cooks the cheesy taters. My niece does the ham. I bring corn pudding or add in my mother in law's scalloped pineapple.

But these gatherings and even Thanksgiving are about more than food. It's about family. About history.  About telling the stories handed down over time and adding a few new ones. It's oral history. Telling our tales, our jokes, telling our lives.

It's about being thankful that I have come from such a family, rich in love and words.

Wednesday, November 27, 2013

6 months into a new journey

In late May I asked my husband of 25 years to leave. June 1st, he moved into his own apartment.

And I stopped blogging because I could not find the words to describe what had gone wrong...

Now 6 months later, I still don't have all the words. I still don't know exactly what went wrong and when it did. But we soldier on. We have thus far remained civil. We have a friendship that will last outside of marriage and legalities. We have been through a lot together in 25 years and now it is time for us to walk our own separate paths.

Whether those paths will cross, merge or diverge is a mystery. All I know is that for our individual salvation, this is the right path at this time.

So I am back to my blog. I don't know if I will ever be able to talk about our separation on here. I doubt it. It is a private relationship, not to be shared in a public forum. Just know that we are OK. We are separate, but we are OK.